Sign in

Human behaviour | Psychology | Opinions

One year on, the silver lining revealed

My husband and I moved from England to lands further afield two Februarys ago. A tempting career opportunity had presented itself and we’re both naturally inclined to adventure. Hence the decision to re-root ourselves was a straight forward one.

A new continent. A new world to explore.

The primary drawback was the distance from our loved ones. Now, rather than a mere 30-minute drive down the motorway, we’d be a whole plane journey away, albeit a direct one. A drawback yes. A reason to remain, no. …


The Arsene Wenger Edition

How many people do you know who have spent more than 20 years in a single organisation? If any, I’m guessing you can count them on one hand.

Such loyalists are few and far between, and Arsene Wenger is one of them.

Wenger spent a whopping 22 years as Manager of Arsenal Football Club, leaving behind a two-part legacy.

Wenger’s first decade at Arsenal was truly successful; he made numerous invaluable player signings, led the club to three Premier League championships and went a record 49 consecutive games undefeated; the infamous Invincible era.

But his later years at Arsenal were…


Cue your inner Arya Stark

How many times have you pursued an underwhelming Netflix series, continually hoping that the next episode will be better than the last? The show continues on a downward trajectory and before you know it, you’re part-way through the second season of The OA, the plot has refused to thicken and character development has diminished further than you once conceived possible.

Time to quit?

No.

You’re almost two seasons down and feel the need to persevere until the end. Several hours of television time later and you’ve begrudgingly completed the series, which as expected, fell far below your expectations. And let’s…


Do Occupational Psychologists hold the answers to our relationship qualms?

When Steve Jobs passed away, his alleged last words made their way around social media, in the expected ‘chain-mail’ fashion. You know the one, “…aside from work, I have little joy”. Whether an authentic Job’s quote or a random case of misinformation, the quote was profound and moved many, probably triggering a more emotional response than it would have if it hadn’t surfaced in the context of a famed death. …


And your cheeks are getting chubby.

We discovered you in November. The most pleasant of surprises.

I can’t wait to hold you.

I can’t help but wonder how it will feel, holding you on the outside rather than housing you on the inside. My whole world in my arms rather than my uterus, in just a matter of weeks.

Fortunately, it seems that you’re already well-attuned to my sentimental nature. You knew that I’d need a memento of our first 9 months together, and so you went and made your mark on me. You know what I’m talking about little man…

The stretch-marks. It’s the thought…


Dare to be direct.

Are the Brits the most mild-mannered of them all?

As a grassroots Londoner, I’m inclined to respond with a resounding no. The @SoVeryBritish Twitter page may invoke a false sense of belief that British people are the most polite and least confrontational of all, but well, I know an entirely unsuspecting woman who once, in a surge of road rage, threw a cheeseburger at a fellow driver.

Enough said.

Whilst the full version of cheeseburger-gate is one of my favourite accounts of confrontation of the vehicular genre, by no means is it the only.

I’ll let you make your own…


Not a film review.

Every so often we come across a being whom we can’t help but be in awe of. They hold the room, and not in a Mercutio-eqsue class-clown manner. Rather, their words and presence alike seem to command respect, whilst their demeanour remains authentic and likeable. In the workplace, the chances are that they’re a business leader at the height of their career.

The trait that we’re observing is gravitas.

The authority, the poise, the eloquent communication. You either have it or you don’t, right?

Wrong.

Babies don’t fly out of the womb with it. We’re not taught it in school…


It’s a sad truth that we humans have a tendency to pay more attention to negative occurrences than we do the positive ones. The psychological term for it is the negativity bias; we pay a great deal of attention to ‘bad’ things and thus, overinflate their importance, frequently much to the demise of our sanity. Of course, we’re not all the same. We don’t all respond more attentively to negative stimuli, but the bias is a common one and one that’s backed up by buckets of psychological research.

So, is this why folk hate HR?

Serious question.

Hopefully ‘hate’ is…


Prevention trumps intervention every time.

Covid-19 has stormed into our lives, threatening to upend everything from our health to our relationships and careers. For many, the pandemic and its mountain of consequences have invoked a great deal of introspection.

Our many musings would be incomplete without the unpacking of our professional lives. Whether we’ve been furloughed, made redundant or remain employed, in typical human fashion, our minds have a tendency to drift towards the philosophical questions that force us to confront whether or not our careers provide us with genuine fulfilment. For many, the response to questions such as “am I happy at work?” …


How building self-awareness can save you a few quid

Following an intense couple of months foraging the market for our next home, my husband and I have finally found the ‘one’. In reflection of our end to end house-hunting escapade, I’ve come to realise that whilst our ultimate decision was careful and considered, a whole host of sneaky biases threatened to dismantle the quality of our decision-making and thus, the shape of our bank account along the way.

The Endowment Effect

The endowment effect refers to the nature of individuals to overvalue, and therefore irrationally overprice, the items that they own. Homeowners commonly fall foul of this effect when…

Simran Randhawa

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store